I don't spend enough time here to do a long thread, but since I'm in the mood I wanna bring up some popular mind games that women like to play on guys, and the best ways to reverse them back onto the girl. (Note...if you can pull this off consistently they'll be obsessed with you since most guys fall for their shit)

- Phone: Playing phone tag with a girl. Let's assume you miss her call one night, your like whatever, call back the next day and BAM! she wont answer nor call you back for a few days.

Basically this comes into play anytime your trying to call a girl and even though she likes you, you just KNOW she is avoiding your calls. This is classic girl playing hard to get. In this situation you CAN'T keep calling her. It looks desperate. You must stop calling her altogether. Once she realizes she hasn't heard from you in a few days she'll wonder if somethings up (cause this just isn't like you to not call) and give you a call. If she doesn't call then she wasn't really into you and nothing would have ever come of it. But if she does call and if she likes you then she will. Don't answer her first call, when she calls the second time DON'T sound happy to hear from her. Tell her you just got in the door and that you'll call her back in 5 minutes, wait about 15-20 minutes THEN you can call her and talk to her. But don't spend too much time on the phone. 5-10 min convo, invite her on a get together and thats it. Girl will NEVER try that phone shit on you again. Trust me, she will try other shit on you, but once she sees how well you aced this game she tried to play on you she'll never try phone games with you again.

-Acting like they like you one day and going cold to you the next.

This is more classic hard to get stuff. And you pretty much flip it the same way. Freeze her out until she tries to talk to you and then go from there. If you think she's the kind of girl who does this all time you can even anticipate and just play the game on her yourself. Ignore her and talk to other girls around her, don't even try and start convo with her. Ignore her attempts at making convo with you then when she thinks she's losing you THEN go and talk to her. This works best on girls you see all the time...school, work, etc...


- She is not one of the boys: When your girl talks smack about another girl especially her friend, do not join in. She is not one of your boys therefore, you cannot join in on bashing her friend. If you do your automatically labeled as an asshole for not liking her girl-friend and taking what she said out of context.

Its amazing, but girls really do think this way. Even if she HATES her friend in the moment, she'll still expect you to like her and will get mad if you agree with her. Saying..."I dunno, I've never had a problem with her, she's always been cool to me, but I don't blame ya, I'd be pissed too if I were you" will score you some MAJOR points.


- Figuring out what the problem is ... NOT: Asking what is wrong to try and fix the situation. She then says: YOU out of all people should know! or NOTHING.

Girls really do expect you to be mind readers. This usually happens when your in a relationship with the girl. When a girl is being moody for no reason or giving you the silent treatment she doesn't want an end to the problem at that point. She just wants to get you frustrated. She's trying to get under your skin. Best thing you can do in this situation is play the silent game back on her. Once again, make her come to you. Any attempt to come to her will result in her making you sweat. The only way to beat this game is too pretend you don't care, ignore her longer than she can ignore you and do other things as if you aren't bothered. This will drive her nuts (the opposite of what she's trying to accomplish)


- GUILT Trip: If you REALLY love me you would go and do / get ... but I guess your not the guy I thought you were.

Simply say..."I guess not" Then walk away and do the silent game thing.


-Girl keeps making excuses to not do things with you, or is never avaliable when you ask:

This could either mean she's not into you, or she's playing hard to get. If you think she's into you she's probably trying to see how avaliable you'll make yourself for her. DON'T fall into this trap. When you ask a girl out on a specific date and she tries to tell you she can't do that date, tell her its the only free time you have that whole week and can't do any other day. Now she can take it or leave it. If she leaves it she probably has a good excuse and you can always ask again another time. If she takes it then you know she's really into you.

-Girl stands you up:

Girl acts like she's really into you and straight up dicks you over. Now this is one that deserves a payback. If a girls not interested in you then she shouldn't lead you on. So heres what you do. Call her up (she probably won't answer cause she expects you to scream her head off) and leave her a message saying..."Sorry I couldn't make it, something came up, I feel terrible. I hope you weren't waiting." This puts you back in control of the situation again. She'll be interested in you again based on the fact she probably has a massive ego and doesn't wanna let the guy win. This is the opening you need. Theres 2 ways you can give this girl a payback...one is to fuck her and never call her again. The other is to tell her how bad you feel about skipping that you wanna treat her to dinner. Your picking up the check. At this point she'll be thinking...HA what a loser, I'll take the free meal. Make sure to tell her not to bring any money, cause you got it covered. After you eat, right before the check comes excuse yourself to the bathroom, and instead head for your car, leave her dumb ass there with the check and without a ride home and drive right on out of her life.

These are just a few. I have ALOT more.

The hard to get part is dead on. That's how I got my girl. lol

My number 1 rule is to stay away from girls who play bullshit games. They're hard to find, but it's worth holding out for them. Fuck the other ones. Waste of my time.

Games are gay. I don't play them.

Yeah I know but it's really hard to find one that doesn't. I've also given up on trying to find a girl that isn't ridiculously catty but I used to love using that to my advantage. It amazes me that a girl could totally not give two shits about you but if you make her think that you like another girl better, then all of a sudden they'll do anything to get with you.

The girl that I'm with now is catty but less so than most, and she doesn't really play head games. She did at first but that's over now. I really feel like she's just the best girl ever, but yeah if she tries to play head games I'll call her out right away because even though she's different from me in a ton of ways, with stuff like that we always know what the other one is thinking. She's jealous of other girls because all girls are, but it's so funny to me because I'm so not going to leave her for anyone. The jealousy thing never goes away though.

This post has been edited by Coasterbill: May 26 2009, 12:32 PM

Maybe they are gay, but women play them and they play them all the time. And if you think this shit will stop once you get married, you got another think coming. Not the hard-to-get stuff, but everything else. You're supposed to know what you did wrong or what you said wrong. Silent treatments only work so long though. Once you get enough of them thrown your way, you get used to them so it becomes less and less effective over time.

Yeah I agree, but I usually know what I said. And if I don't then I keep asking her what's wrong until she tells me. I know I sound like a tool for giving into this shit but I really hate to see her upset.

No, you don't sound like that at all. I admit I do the same thing at times but I just want to find out what is wrong so I can try and settle it instead of watching her pout about something.

The mind games stopped for the most part after we got together. I knew she was into me because she was asking me personal questions on the phone one night like what kind of girls do I like, if I was seeing anybody, my birthday, and other good stuff. Then she backed off a little and I felt like she had ambivalent feelings for me. I tried talking to her, and she kind of withdrew. So I ignored her for about a week or two, and sure enough, she came to me and said she wanted to do something. I picked the day and the rest is history. She said that she wasn't playing hard to get and that she was just shy, but it was a mindfuck for me.

I agree with you guys about its best to avoid a girl who plays mind games. The only problem is most hot girls have so many dudes after them thats its not a big deal for them to play games.

She was testing to see how much you'd chase, she picked you cause you passed with flying colors.

Heaven forbid they just don't get to know you without the games that always have to seem to be a part of everything.

Mind games are annoying. There's this girl that I thought we were "just friends" and she'll talk about this other guy to me sometimes that she says she likes. But I also went with her to her dad's wedding over the weekend when I never met that family before. Now I text her while I was at work on monday out of total boredom and she started giving me these one word answers. Whatever, she got it back today. A little too much may have came out at that wedding too..

Women are simply famous with the mind games.

She's toying with you dude, you have no chance with this girl.

I haven't really had any games with my girl yet. Knock on wood. We did just have a pregnancy scare though.

Agreed. I've seen it happen to me. When she starts talking about other dudes she likes, it's over.


Had one of those with a previous girlfriend. All I can say is thank god it was a false alarm.

I never looked to make it anything serious and I've told her that before. I don't know what her deal is now though.

To me, it's simply not worth the effort to try and bag a girl who does these things.

There is one exception. Girl might start talking about other dudes to try and make you jealous. But in his case, everything else he said lead me to believe that wasn't the case.